Happy 365 Chances to Make Someone Else Happy

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Happy New Year. We say these words to each other in merriment. We say them to strangers as a greeting. It is something we wish for one another but how often do we help others actually have a happy new year? All year long?  Do we celebrate together and then toss the sentiments aside once the celebration has worn off? Do we discard our desire for others to be happy along with our annual resolutions? Why is it so difficult to stick to lists of things we want to better about ourselves? It is also sometimes just as difficult to remain a steadfast partner, friend and caregiver.

When the clock was striking 2000, everyone was worried about Y2K…remember? Jim and I brought that significant time passage in together on the island of Martinique. It was a blast. We had a spitball fight with the other dinner guests at our resort (a tradition in France, so we were told) and met and danced and rang in a new century with people from all over the world. We had to fly out the next day and there was lots of chatter about whether or not the planes would be able to take off. They did. We were disappointed. We were more than willing to stay another day in paradise. Later that year I would become pregnant with Frances and our family would grow and become enhanced in ways I could have never imagined. I also couldn’t have imagined at the time that in just a few years I would be mourning Jim every day; while he is still fully alive and completely healthy other than his early stages of Younger Onset Alzheimer’s Disease. I suppose it is a blessing to not have a crystal ball. I look back and can see our youth, our love, our happiness. I cannot fathom feeling, looking or living that way again. All I can see now is Jim’s progression and the decisions and work I have laid out before me. How I long to have the ability to be carefree and full of options and life as we were just years ago.

It will be a new year. But will it be a happy one? We are ultimately all in charge of our own happiness, regardless of what life hands us. Keeping this in mind, I believe the only way I will be able to remain happy is to focus on the kids. Focus on helping others. Focus on making it a “happy all year long” for the many caregivers that are going through this journey. I will remain steadfast in my determination to speak out and educate. I have been blessed this past year with new friends that have stepped up to the plate, old friends that have been a beacon of support and love, much needed assistance from perfect strangers and the love and affection of two children, two parents, a brother and a husband that remind me everyday what matters most. I want to pay it forward. With a little money and a lot of time, I plan on doing this. Just finding that money and that time….

It is hard, very hard, to remain strong day in and day out. It is hard to rely on others for help. It is easy to concentrate on helping others at the same time we ourselves are needing help.

It will be interesting to read these words again in 365 days to see how I feel, where we are and what changes have occurred in our world.

I ask that each of you focus on making 2014 a year to find wonders that surround you, find love from within and to help others make this a happy year, all year long. The benefits you will receive will far outweigh those that you give. And it will make our world a better place.

posted by Karen in Early Signs of Alzheimer's,Early Stages of Alzheimer's Disease,Uncategorized,Younger Onset Alzheimer's Disease and have Comment (1)

One Response to “Happy 365 Chances to Make Someone Else Happy”

  1. Wendy says:

    I pray for a good year for you and your family Karen.

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